Flirt and love horoscope: Venus, Mars and your relationship pattern

No subject is put to astrology as often as love – and on no subject is so much promised. A flirt and love horoscope does not tell you when the right person will cross your path. It describes something more useful: how you go about getting close, what attracts you and where you keep getting stuck. That is less spectacular than a forecast, but it is something you can actually work with.

Venus and Mars ask two different questions

Venus stands for what you find beautiful and what draws you in – for your taste, for the way you show affection, and for what you find pleasant in a relationship. Mars stands for the counterpart: for drive, desire and the way you approach someone. Together the two make up a pattern that will probably feel familiar as soon as you see it set out in words.

It gets interesting when your Venus and your Mars speak very different languages. You may long for calm and reliability and still fall reliably for people who keep you on your toes. Inner contradictions of that kind are common, and they are not a defect. Knowing about them does spare you a few rounds on the same old carousel.

How the four elements flirt

The elements are a quick way to get your bearings. Fire moves straight in, shows enthusiasm and loses patience when nothing comes back. Earth approaches slowly, tests reliability and shows affection through deeds rather than words. Air flirts through language, wit and curiosity, and needs an exchange of ideas before it is in the mood at all. Water feels its way in through the atmosphere, picks up moods at once and needs safety before it opens up.

These four ways in explain a surprising number of misunderstandings at the beginning of an encounter: what is pleasant restraint to one person looks to the other like indifference. You can read more about this division under the four elements.

Falling in love and commitment are not the same thing

The astrological tradition separates two areas of life that everyday life readily runs together. The fifth house belongs to play: flirting, falling in love, adventure, the pleasure of the encounter. The seventh house belongs to partnership: commitment, the other, what has to hold up over time.

That distinction helps, because a great many disappointments arise exactly along that seam. What works effortlessly in the fifth house is no sign yet that it will carry in the seventh – and conversely, an unspectacular encounter can turn out to bear a great deal of weight. If you are interested in how a chart is put together, it is worth a look at the ascendant, since it fixes where the houses begin in your chart.

When two charts meet

For comparing two charts there is synastry. The positions of both charts are laid over each other to see where they touch, complement or chafe. Done properly, it delivers no score and no verdict on suitability, but a description: here the two of you understand each other without words, there you regularly talk past each other.

Lists that rule certain signs compatible on principle and others incompatible, on the other hand, should not impress you. They take only the Sun into account and leave everything else out. There are plenty of couples that, by such tables, ought not to exist at all.

What you can realistically expect

A love horoscope does not change your chances, it changes the way you look at your own behaviour. It can supply words for something you have so far only sensed, and it can show which needs you regularly pass over in relationships. Everything beyond that happens not in the chart but in conversations with real people. If you want to see what other horoscopes there are and what they are good for, the overview is worth a look.